Breaking down what happened, how it felt, and what you are going to do next about it in three steps; Situation, Emotion, Action. Well that happened. Now what are you going to do about it?

Too often people think they have to give their “Best Effort” every day to be productive, worthy, or even lovable. Unfortunately, this mindset is a quick road to burnout and backsliding. Learn how to be Good Enough to reach your goals in a sustainable, healthy way.

Intellectualizing is a cognitive distortion which helps you avoid emotional pain by spending all of your brain juice attempting to use logic and reason. Avoiding uncomfortable sensations too often can keep you from being in the moment and disrupt your ability to get through difficult experiences. Learning how to identify and respond attentively to difficult sensations is a practical life skill we all need.

You know you want to do something different, but with so many choices how do you know what to focus on? Learning how to identify goals that matter to you can help you grow into the person you want to be.

It can be maddening when your partner says they remember an event in a way you do not. This difference can spark an entirely new conflict that leaves the original conflict unresolved. Learning how to not get caught on “what really happened” can lead couples to learn how to acknowledge and actually resolve conflicts in the relationship.

A bid is any attempt to connect to another person. How we respond to these bids can significantly influence the quality of our relationships.

Anger is a perfectly valid on its own. However, it is rarely all by itself. Often anger can hide what else is going on beneath the surface.

We all have the right to be treated with fairness and respect. Knowing our personal rights can make it easier to know our edges.

An ACE score represents the number of Adverse Childhood Experiences before turning 18. Our ACEs can affect us later in life in many ways.

Cognitive distortions are thoughts that have made an error in analyzing a situation. Unfortunately, they sound like the 'truth.'

A startle response happens when your body triggers the nervous system to kick on and rescue you from a perceived threat.

Ever make a goal and fail to stick the landing? It happens. Success will happen more often if you learn how to make SMART goals.

Learning how to live by your values can help you become the person you want to be.

The Choice Point is a decision making tool that can help you become the person you want to be.

Knowing about our basic human needs can help us identify where we are getting stuck on our way to becoming the best version of ourselves.

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Why do we even have emotions? And What are they?

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